其实我已经咳嗽咳了很久，原本想说它自己应该会好的吧（还以为自己身体的抵抗力有那么好）。看吧，越来越严重了。那些细菌已经进化成伤风的细菌，再进化成咳嗽的菌，又再进化成喉咙发炎的菌。它们这样不断的进化，终于我受不了了，去找医生去了。吃了三天的药，喉咙好像没有这么痛了，但咳嗽还是一样严重。我甚至咳到流泪＋失声，所以现在千万不要找我聊天，不然你会被我那'性感'的声音吓昏。哈哈！！！
7天后的我又要再一次搭上飞机，这次是去我的毕业典礼咯！！！好兴奋哦！！！最近半夜咳醒时自己就会开始在那里幻想一些有的没的。但是，现实还是现实。毕业了，然后呢？？？昨天也不晓得是吹什么，风竟然可以那么努力的一次过影印的4份履历表，放入信封贴上邮票寄出去。现在它们已经在天上飞咯！！！我姐说不用急啦，话是这么说没错，而且啊，我爸妈他们就趁我在家这段时间出国到中国大陆去观光咯！！！看见他们这么难得可以出去轻松一下又觉得，好像我不做工可以造就更多人也。哈！！！
不管了，有就有，没有就没有，不管了。
星期一, 8月 18, 2008
Empty
Congrats to LEE CHUNG WEI whom won a silver medal for Malaysia!!! OMG!!! What a victory he had won for Malaysia. Though the money he loose 70K but most of the money wont reach to himself though, this is a sensitive issue and it's not my main point here.
It's been the second month since i finish my last and final exam in Monash University and i'm still sitting here jobless. What i currently did everyday was eat, sleep, online until i don't remember the sun had gone to sleep, watching olympic games and make me quite crazy bout Michael Phelps....What a useless life i'm having right now. I wish i had some essay or reports or assignment for me to rush, like what i've done in Monash.
A far away friend of mine tell me that this is the time for me to get closed to GOD, spend some times with HIM before i don't have the time to spend with him. Well, this is true and which i have been forcing myself doing it everyday. Though my progress is kindda slow, but at least i still spend sometimes reading GOD's words. But....life is still life. I'm still empty.
This morning my mum tell me that there's one vacancy in SIBU (recommended by my bro-in-law's cousin, also my senior). Thank GOD that there's actually so many opportunity waiting for me outside. Just that....aiya....i don't know la!!!COMPLICATED is the word. I do feel it's quite good to work in SIBU, means its near to my hometown, and i knew him well....but my problem is....i knew him too well...I mean that senior of mine who recommend this job to me. If i do apply means i'll have to work with him and it's WEIRD for me. But i don't want to stay empty like this ler....HAI....
COMPLICATED....
It's been the second month since i finish my last and final exam in Monash University and i'm still sitting here jobless. What i currently did everyday was eat, sleep, online until i don't remember the sun had gone to sleep, watching olympic games and make me quite crazy bout Michael Phelps....What a useless life i'm having right now. I wish i had some essay or reports or assignment for me to rush, like what i've done in Monash.
A far away friend of mine tell me that this is the time for me to get closed to GOD, spend some times with HIM before i don't have the time to spend with him. Well, this is true and which i have been forcing myself doing it everyday. Though my progress is kindda slow, but at least i still spend sometimes reading GOD's words. But....life is still life. I'm still empty.
This morning my mum tell me that there's one vacancy in SIBU (recommended by my bro-in-law's cousin, also my senior). Thank GOD that there's actually so many opportunity waiting for me outside. Just that....aiya....i don't know la!!!COMPLICATED is the word. I do feel it's quite good to work in SIBU, means its near to my hometown, and i knew him well....but my problem is....i knew him too well...I mean that senior of mine who recommend this job to me. If i do apply means i'll have to work with him and it's WEIRD for me. But i don't want to stay empty like this ler....HAI....
COMPLICATED....
星期日, 8月 10, 2008
I'm Back!!!
Praise GOD for my safe journey back and forth to the OCZ outreach. Thank GOD for everything that HE had done on us. There's a number of things for me to Thank GOD for and i most probably won't be able to finish it within one day.
My journey start here:
We gather in PeaceHeaven, Genting to attend the conference prior to the outreach. Everything was just too great to be describe in words. Holy Spirit had touched each and everyone of us who had attended the journey. It was here that i meet up my team (outreach to Taiwan).
Team to Taiwan!!!
I know what is in your mind right now. YES, i'm the one and only precious PRINCESS in the team. HAHAHAH!!! At first i do feel struggle a bit, but things gets too well then i can even handle. Praise GOD!!! For HE knews all my worries hence help me handle it.
Praise GOD again our flight landed safely in TaoYuan airport where the day we landed in the airport was the first day of typhoon day which was graded as 11 and was considered as serious!!! GOD's is with us all the time. We were sent to one small community called BAIFU in KEELUNG to serve together with the church. There was a slight change in plan but everything was still fine. In this small church which our team had been serving together with, it consist of 80% of youth and with the average members of 60. We had evangelistic teaching to the church leaders, open aired evangelistic meeting where we did mime in the park and on the cross road of the street with our face painted.
SCARRY PEOPLE....
We did Prayer Walk where we distribute fliers to the people we meet on the street, and faith trip where each of us are separated into different group. The most challenging part is the faith trip where we are not allowed to bring any money with us but we were sent to one spot to complete our mission such as sharing the gospel with student of the university or eat the most famous food in that area but without using any money!!! It's the first time ever in my life time that i kindda like begged for money in the MRT station to travel back to our church.
Me with my faith trip group in MRT station, preparing back to church.
OK....done with our missionary work. NOW, is the SHOPPING and FOOD MINISTRY!!! WAHAHAHA....the food there was superb!!! You won't imagine how many things we all had been eaten. Even the 7-11 there was superb man!!! We loved the 7-11 so so much until we go to the 7-11 for supper or afternoon tea or whenever we feel like craving for food for at least 3 times a day. WE LOVED 7-11 which we never did in Malaysia. Shopping Ministry is my part where i almost make all of my team mates mad because of my shopping madness. HA!!!
MY SUCCESS....
Well, overall....the trip is such a memorable trip. Though in between i had been facing so much trouble and messy thing, THANK GOD for everything. I can see the HE is holding my hands to guide me walk through all those hard times. I LOVED YOU SO MUCH GOD...more than i loved anyone on earth. If next year GOD allows me to go for this outreach again, i wont hesitate and willing to take another challenge. PRAISE GOD HALLELUYAH FOR ALL HE HAD DONE!!!
My journey start here:
We gather in PeaceHeaven, Genting to attend the conference prior to the outreach. Everything was just too great to be describe in words. Holy Spirit had touched each and everyone of us who had attended the journey. It was here that i meet up my team (outreach to Taiwan).
Team to Taiwan!!!
I know what is in your mind right now. YES, i'm the one and only precious PRINCESS in the team. HAHAHAH!!! At first i do feel struggle a bit, but things gets too well then i can even handle. Praise GOD!!! For HE knews all my worries hence help me handle it.
Praise GOD again our flight landed safely in TaoYuan airport where the day we landed in the airport was the first day of typhoon day which was graded as 11 and was considered as serious!!! GOD's is with us all the time. We were sent to one small community called BAIFU in KEELUNG to serve together with the church. There was a slight change in plan but everything was still fine. In this small church which our team had been serving together with, it consist of 80% of youth and with the average members of 60. We had evangelistic teaching to the church leaders, open aired evangelistic meeting where we did mime in the park and on the cross road of the street with our face painted.
SCARRY PEOPLE....
We did Prayer Walk where we distribute fliers to the people we meet on the street, and faith trip where each of us are separated into different group. The most challenging part is the faith trip where we are not allowed to bring any money with us but we were sent to one spot to complete our mission such as sharing the gospel with student of the university or eat the most famous food in that area but without using any money!!! It's the first time ever in my life time that i kindda like begged for money in the MRT station to travel back to our church.
Me with my faith trip group in MRT station, preparing back to church.
OK....done with our missionary work. NOW, is the SHOPPING and FOOD MINISTRY!!! WAHAHAHA....the food there was superb!!! You won't imagine how many things we all had been eaten. Even the 7-11 there was superb man!!! We loved the 7-11 so so much until we go to the 7-11 for supper or afternoon tea or whenever we feel like craving for food for at least 3 times a day. WE LOVED 7-11 which we never did in Malaysia. Shopping Ministry is my part where i almost make all of my team mates mad because of my shopping madness. HA!!!
MY SUCCESS....
Well, overall....the trip is such a memorable trip. Though in between i had been facing so much trouble and messy thing, THANK GOD for everything. I can see the HE is holding my hands to guide me walk through all those hard times. I LOVED YOU SO MUCH GOD...more than i loved anyone on earth. If next year GOD allows me to go for this outreach again, i wont hesitate and willing to take another challenge. PRAISE GOD HALLELUYAH FOR ALL HE HAD DONE!!!
星期日, 7月 20, 2008
Break Time
Guess what!!! I'm in Taiwan Ji Lung now, in a small town which is as big as Bintulu. Now is our break time since our pack schedule since the day we arrive here. Though it's a small town but it's full of foods and supermarket especially those 24 hour mart. I so so so so love the 7-11 here. We all spend at least 20mins inside. The drinks was all awesome, the packing looks gorgeous and the most important thing is that i found the lipton tea drink got leehom face printed on the packing and which i had tried all of them. The only things which we all cannot stand is the weather. The first days we arrive here is the first day of the typhoon days. Erm, it sounds scarry but actually it's just normal rainy days. Thank God there's been shiny sunlight for two days.
We'll gonna involve in an open aired evangelistic meeting later at 3pm which was kindda exciting where we gonna do some face painting and do some mime with it. Imagine that -- WE DO THAT IN A PUBLIC PLACE!!!! I cant imagine how am i gonna look like with the face paint on my face. I don't dare to think and don't want to think but just leave it to GOD. No matter what's gonna happen i'm just gonna GO FOR IT!!!!
And last but not least.....the food here is SUPERB MAN!!!!! Everything is so so so nice!!!! U can't believe how nice it is. Everything is just gorgeous!!! And i tell u, u try to imagine that -- in one small town like Bintulu, there's super super lot's of food for us to eat. And today is the fourth day we are here and i think we just manage to taste about 20% of the food. IT'S AMAZING!!!! And the people here are GORGEOUS!!!! The people from this small church are so nice, so exciting to see us coming, so 're qing'!!!!
I LOVE TAIWAN.....but i'll definitely not goin to come again during summer time which even we from tropical country cannot stand the heat here. OMG!!!!!
We'll gonna involve in an open aired evangelistic meeting later at 3pm which was kindda exciting where we gonna do some face painting and do some mime with it. Imagine that -- WE DO THAT IN A PUBLIC PLACE!!!! I cant imagine how am i gonna look like with the face paint on my face. I don't dare to think and don't want to think but just leave it to GOD. No matter what's gonna happen i'm just gonna GO FOR IT!!!!
And last but not least.....the food here is SUPERB MAN!!!!! Everything is so so so nice!!!! U can't believe how nice it is. Everything is just gorgeous!!! And i tell u, u try to imagine that -- in one small town like Bintulu, there's super super lot's of food for us to eat. And today is the fourth day we are here and i think we just manage to taste about 20% of the food. IT'S AMAZING!!!! And the people here are GORGEOUS!!!! The people from this small church are so nice, so exciting to see us coming, so 're qing'!!!!
I LOVE TAIWAN.....but i'll definitely not goin to come again during summer time which even we from tropical country cannot stand the heat here. OMG!!!!!
星期二, 7月 08, 2008
原始的兴奋
放假没事干的我无意间发现msn video里有Backstreetboys演唱会的video。身为他们的忠实粉丝的我当然不可能错过啦！结果就一屁股坐在电脑前、speaker开的有点大声的、目不转睛的对着monitor，一看就是76分钟。看完后，只有一个字可以形容我－－hyper!!!那个情绪真的和那些嗑过药的人是一样的，就是兴奋、亢奋...我之所以会这么激动当然也是有原因的啦，不然我干嘛没事自high啊？神经病啊我。因为msn po 的那常演唱会,他们的曲目编排和我本人去看的那一场（在sunway surf beach)是完全一样的。所以会特别的激动，好像我也在现场一样。
我好久好久都没有这么激动过了。人生啊，就是要有点起浮，不然说实话还真的是蛮闷的说。就像现在的我呀，根本就是过着猪的生活，每天过着宅女的生活，只能用一个字－闷来形容。孤庇的我，如果没事的话是不会踏出家门口半步的（店不算〕，就连教堂也懒的去，因为只要想到我的出现就会像熊猫一样一直被注视着，心里就不舒服。而且还会有打不完的招呼、重复又重复的问题结答、勉强自己皮笑肉不笑...等等。还是在家好！对着那两个小瓜就够我受的了。还好有他们两个，让我的日子忙碌一点点。
闷啊！！！！！！！！！！！！！！
我好久好久都没有这么激动过了。人生啊，就是要有点起浮，不然说实话还真的是蛮闷的说。就像现在的我呀，根本就是过着猪的生活，每天过着宅女的生活，只能用一个字－闷来形容。孤庇的我，如果没事的话是不会踏出家门口半步的（店不算〕，就连教堂也懒的去，因为只要想到我的出现就会像熊猫一样一直被注视着，心里就不舒服。而且还会有打不完的招呼、重复又重复的问题结答、勉强自己皮笑肉不笑...等等。还是在家好！对着那两个小瓜就够我受的了。还好有他们两个，让我的日子忙碌一点点。
闷啊！！！！！！！！！！！！！！
星期二, 7月 01, 2008
思念
大城市和小城市的生活就是有差。我好像已经习惯忙碌的生活，现在突然要我静下来我还真是超级无敌的不习惯也。其实家里有好多好多的事情是要我做的－－家务啦、司机啦、保姆啦...感觉我好像应该很忙吧！但其实懒惰的我什么都不做。回家真的而且是100％会发胖，因为只要我眼睛一挣开我都在吃东西，而且家人好像怕我饿死一样，一直拼命的叫我吃，如果我不吃好像很奇怪。
我才回来一个星期，原本想说放假了可以静静坐下来好好享受我的假期，怎知。。。原来不行也！回来这里，没有GYM、没有我爱喝的咖啡、没有我熟悉的教堂、没有可以让我逛街的地方、没有和我一起玩的朋友们。。。怎办呀！！！才一个星期也。。。我还想说要休息到够够的也。。。。
还好，我要去OCZ了。。。台湾我来了！！！但又很担心我自己没有这么大的能耐，真的好怕我会像他常骂我的－－等你到台湾去，看你还敢不敢嫌三嫌四、台湾没人愿意载你，看你怎么办、去到台湾不要哭着吵着要回家。。。讨厌啦！！！偏偏就是被你讲中。。。这些东西我真的不是普通的担心也。
为我加油吧！！！
我才回来一个星期，原本想说放假了可以静静坐下来好好享受我的假期，怎知。。。原来不行也！回来这里，没有GYM、没有我爱喝的咖啡、没有我熟悉的教堂、没有可以让我逛街的地方、没有和我一起玩的朋友们。。。怎办呀！！！才一个星期也。。。我还想说要休息到够够的也。。。。
还好，我要去OCZ了。。。台湾我来了！！！但又很担心我自己没有这么大的能耐，真的好怕我会像他常骂我的－－等你到台湾去，看你还敢不敢嫌三嫌四、台湾没人愿意载你，看你怎么办、去到台湾不要哭着吵着要回家。。。讨厌啦！！！偏偏就是被你讲中。。。这些东西我真的不是普通的担心也。
为我加油吧！！！
星期三, 6月 25, 2008
我走了！
时间过得好快，以前啊，我每天说时间过得很慢，为什么我一直不会毕业的？现在，我（暂时）可以宣布我毕业了！五个小时后我就会在天上飞了，心情真的超沉重地说。在这里的喜怒哀乐，所有的一切就好像在看电影一样的在flashback，这个房间从一无所有到满满的，现在又归回空荡荡。奇妙吧！
我好讨厌这种分离的感觉。虽然我知道我还会再回来，但我不再以一个学生的身份来了，而是以一个过路客的身份来这里度假。这五年来，我的人生里面出现的超多的过路客。说真的，虽然我每次嘴上说我记不得他们的名字，但他们的样子是深深地印在我的脑海里，我记得的。在这里所有的感情是我前所未有的，我会把这一切好好收藏起来，让自己慢慢的回味！
人真的好软弱哦！每每面对生离死别就是要这么痛苦。一定要为我加油哦！我好怕哪天我就这样放弃了，因为我真的没有信心踏入这个黑暗的社会虽然这是必经之路。
大家一起加油吧！
朋友们！
加油加油加油！！！
我好讨厌这种分离的感觉。虽然我知道我还会再回来，但我不再以一个学生的身份来了，而是以一个过路客的身份来这里度假。这五年来，我的人生里面出现的超多的过路客。说真的，虽然我每次嘴上说我记不得他们的名字，但他们的样子是深深地印在我的脑海里，我记得的。在这里所有的感情是我前所未有的，我会把这一切好好收藏起来，让自己慢慢的回味！
人真的好软弱哦！每每面对生离死别就是要这么痛苦。一定要为我加油哦！我好怕哪天我就这样放弃了，因为我真的没有信心踏入这个黑暗的社会虽然这是必经之路。
大家一起加油吧！
朋友们！
加油加油加油！！！
星期日, 6月 22, 2008
不变的事
每天几乎都会听到-这个世界变咯、气候在变咯、经济在变咯...但今天，我发现一件...也是唯一一件没有在改变的东西=自私的人心！我每次都在说，就是因为人心险恶，搞到人心惶惶、世界不再美丽。而我一直都自觉很幸福，因为我还没遇到这些不幸的事。原来生活在这个丑陋的世界里的我是逃不过这一劫的！好人永远都是被欺压的那个，坏人永远都是成功的那个。
人心难道就可以这样被糟蹋的吗？
人心难道就应该这样被践踏的吗？
难道人心就不会破碎吗？
难道人心就不会有感觉吗？
难道人心就不会流血吗？
为什么这个世界可以腐坏到这种程度？
为什么这个世界可以充满这么多邪恶？
为什么人可以自私到这种程度？
你高兴难道就代表我也要高兴吗？
你兴奋难道我就必须要跟着兴奋吗？
你生气难道我就要顺从你吗？
那你把我当什么？
你的宠物吗？
没有情感的动物吗？
和耶稣一样被人践踏也不会发出一句怨言的伟人吗？
我说的话一直被忽视、一直被轻看
我的存在一直被遗忘、一直被嫌弃
等等等等....
这一切的一切我都忍下来了
但最令我痛心的是
竟然连我的感觉也被忽视
竟然连我的感觉也....
我不想用一些很难听的字
谢谢你们让我看清你们的真面目
谢谢你们再一次提醒我-世界的丑陋
谢谢你们再一次提醒我-不应该这么积极
谢谢你们再一次提醒我-人是自私的
谢谢你们再一次令我失望
谢谢你们教会我什么叫铁下心来
多亏你们
让我有这么痛心失望的回忆
我好后悔我为什么回来
我好后悔我为什么要撑着疲惫的身体赶路
我好后悔我为什么相信你们
我好后悔我给你们机会
到头来
痛苦的人是我
路是你们选的，我也只能所抱歉了
人心难道就可以这样被糟蹋的吗？
人心难道就应该这样被践踏的吗？
难道人心就不会破碎吗？
难道人心就不会有感觉吗？
难道人心就不会流血吗？
为什么这个世界可以腐坏到这种程度？
为什么这个世界可以充满这么多邪恶？
为什么人可以自私到这种程度？
你高兴难道就代表我也要高兴吗？
你兴奋难道我就必须要跟着兴奋吗？
你生气难道我就要顺从你吗？
那你把我当什么？
你的宠物吗？
没有情感的动物吗？
和耶稣一样被人践踏也不会发出一句怨言的伟人吗？
我说的话一直被忽视、一直被轻看
我的存在一直被遗忘、一直被嫌弃
等等等等....
这一切的一切我都忍下来了
但最令我痛心的是
竟然连我的感觉也被忽视
竟然连我的感觉也....
我不想用一些很难听的字
谢谢你们让我看清你们的真面目
谢谢你们再一次提醒我-世界的丑陋
谢谢你们再一次提醒我-不应该这么积极
谢谢你们再一次提醒我-人是自私的
谢谢你们再一次令我失望
谢谢你们教会我什么叫铁下心来
多亏你们
让我有这么痛心失望的回忆
我好后悔我为什么回来
我好后悔我为什么要撑着疲惫的身体赶路
我好后悔我为什么相信你们
我好后悔我给你们机会
到头来
痛苦的人是我
路是你们选的，我也只能所抱歉了
星期三, 6月 18, 2008
被遗弃的小孩Part2
从来没有人看见它的存在
从来没有人发现它的存在
从来没有人重视它的存在
它一直很用力的拨开外壳
它一直很努力的蜕变
它一直很尽力的生存
它一直很竭尽所能的开着灿烂的花
如今
花儿凋谢了
落叶纷飞了
热烈的阳光已不再
永远的阴天已来临
万般的不舍
也唯有顺从
万般的无奈
也唯有忍耐
万般的伤心
也唯有独自流泪
万般的痛心
也唯有自怜自哀
万般的不服
也唯有认了
从来没有人发现它的存在
从来没有人重视它的存在
它一直很用力的拨开外壳
它一直很努力的蜕变
它一直很尽力的生存
它一直很竭尽所能的开着灿烂的花
如今
花儿凋谢了
落叶纷飞了
热烈的阳光已不再
永远的阴天已来临
万般的不舍
也唯有顺从
万般的无奈
也唯有忍耐
万般的伤心
也唯有独自流泪
万般的痛心
也唯有自怜自哀
万般的不服
也唯有认了
星期一, 6月 09, 2008
星期四, 6月 05, 2008
星期三, 6月 04, 2008
Foodborne Illness
It was 5 years ago since the last time that i got infected by the foodborne pathogen, that's when i first left home and came here to study. Five years later, where i'll hopefully be graduated, i got infected again! It's kindda like what we chinese people say ‘有头有尾’... Hahaha!!!
It's kindda suffering. I can't concentrate on my studies where i'll be having my first paper the day after tomorrow... All my apetite had gone, whenever i want to eat i'll need to think about the 'consequences'. No wonder, since yesterday i feel like my lunch were not digested and i keep on burping out gases. By that time, i knew that there's somethings gonna happen on me. And that's me now!!!
Everything is on my own now. No matter what also i'm on my own. Don't worry, i understand my body real well. I know how to cure it. Doctor don't understand more than myself about my body. Aza!!! Aza!!! E.coli go away....Enterobacter go away.....Salmonella (hopefully there's none of them) go away!!!
It's kindda suffering. I can't concentrate on my studies where i'll be having my first paper the day after tomorrow... All my apetite had gone, whenever i want to eat i'll need to think about the 'consequences'. No wonder, since yesterday i feel like my lunch were not digested and i keep on burping out gases. By that time, i knew that there's somethings gonna happen on me. And that's me now!!!
Everything is on my own now. No matter what also i'm on my own. Don't worry, i understand my body real well. I know how to cure it. Doctor don't understand more than myself about my body. Aza!!! Aza!!! E.coli go away....Enterobacter go away.....Salmonella (hopefully there's none of them) go away!!!
星期日, 6月 01, 2008
I Love You
真的不得不承认
一句很普通的话
‘I Love You’
原来是那么的有力量的
原本很沮丧
原本觉得世界是黑暗的
就因为这一句话
我从新振作了
让我重新看见世界的光明
谢谢对我说了这句话的人
你小小的声音
一直在我脑海里打转
在我觉得人生没意义的时候
在我想放弃的时候
你给了我这一句话
这短短的三个字
把我从谷底
调到天堂
但
天下无不散之宴席
每个人都需要长大
每个人都需要离开
我只希望
在你心里的某一处
有我的影子存在着
那我就满足了
谢谢你
我也爱你
一句很普通的话
‘I Love You’
原来是那么的有力量的
原本很沮丧
原本觉得世界是黑暗的
就因为这一句话
我从新振作了
让我重新看见世界的光明
谢谢对我说了这句话的人
你小小的声音
一直在我脑海里打转
在我觉得人生没意义的时候
在我想放弃的时候
你给了我这一句话
这短短的三个字
把我从谷底
调到天堂
但
天下无不散之宴席
每个人都需要长大
每个人都需要离开
我只希望
在你心里的某一处
有我的影子存在着
那我就满足了
谢谢你
我也爱你
星期五, 5月 30, 2008
星期四, 5月 29, 2008
找到你的[心靈伴侶]
[心靈伴侶]是個多美妙的字眼。
我們都希望能找到自己的心靈伴侶，卻又擔心人海茫茫，但是也許不需要用“找”的，而是可以用“培養”的。
想跟大家分享一些過來人的幸福的小秘訣，希望給你一些點子跟幫助：
《談戀愛要睜大眼睛》
碰到不對的人，有時怎麼努力也難力挽狂瀾，這時就要理性喊卡！
很多人會受許多情傷折磨，但是有些傷口可以不用惡化，差別在於，當你發現你所愛非人時，你願不願意鼓起勇氣─放手，有人寧願忍受對方劈腿或是暴力相向，也不敢面對失去對方的痛苦。
一段健康的感情，是你能清楚明白，雙方都很認真的面對感情，碰到困難，都樂意調整自己，衝突是情人難免的，但你可以從處理衝突的方式，明白這段感情是否值得繼續下去，或是轉身離開。
《“心靈親密”第一課─培養信任感》
當你已經知道彼此真心相對時，就可以開始“心靈親密”的第一課─培養信仰感，不做讓對方不安的事情，也避免被試探的可能性。
舉例來說，兩人能約定跟異性朋友的適當距離，這依每對情侶的情況有所不同，有人完全不能接受對方跟異性朋友出去，有人可以接受先報備，但重點是你願不願意為了對方的容忍限度，而有所配合，當然也有可能是，對方有了不合理的要求，你能不能判斷那是不對，而試圖溝通。
從一些原則的溝通上，你就能發現雙方能否良性互動，而當情況惡劣，無法改進時，也要有心理準備，這段感情可能並不適合。
《“心靈親密”第二課─願意反省改變》
聖經上有一個教導很好， 你們怎樣判斷人，也必怎樣被判斷；你們用甚麼標準衡量人，也必照樣被衡量。 為甚麼看見你弟兄眼中的木屑，卻不理會自己眼中的梁木呢？
我們每個人都有缺點，但你能否改變自我？其實人的內心很多時候是很驕傲的，根本不願意承認自己有問題。而談戀愛是一個成長的過程，你對家人好友可能都有保留，但面對最親近的戀人反而無所遁藏，所以一些個性上的缺點就很容易浮現出來，而改變勢必是痛苦的，但可能是有益處的，讓我們的性格經過鍛鍊而更成熟。
在感情中，許多時候在要求對方改進之前，先反求諸己，反而更能感動對方，開始進步！
《“心靈親密”第三課─願意花費心思和時間》
戀愛真的是個花功夫的事情。
兩個人吵架，你可能要花很多時間解決問題。兩個人分離，你可能要花很多時間思念。兩個人感情停滯，你可能要花很多心力想辦法進步。
所以為什麼專家都建議不要太早開始戀愛，因為我們在求學階段，光是花時間面對課業就心力交瘁，還要面對自己許多的改變，尋找自我的過程。如果談了戀愛，勢必就要犧牲許多時間和精神在彼此身上，又因為不成熟，而留下許多傷害，更糟糕的是，錯過的青春美好時光以及其他的友誼是回不來的。
所以，我建議等你預備好，已經懂得愛自己，管理時間、情緒，經營好人際關係，不害怕寂寞時，才是談戀愛的好時機。
《“心靈親密”第四課─愛情不能鬆懈》
如果你已經預備好了，我也有幾個小建議：
你知道為什麼有人認為婚姻是戀愛的墳墓嗎？其實這跟男女生的差異很有關係。男生會認為把女生娶回家，就是任務階段性完成了，他下一個目標就是好好的衝刺事業，打好經濟基礎。但是女生是一直需要被疼惜的感覺，所以她會很明顯的感到不安，為什麼先生不像談戀愛時，那麼在意自己了？而男生也會感到太太怎麼那麼不懂事，還一直給他額外的壓力，時日一久，兩人心靈的縫隙就越來越大了！
所以，這提醒我們，就算你們曾經彼此情感親密，也可能因為環境或心態上的變化，造成感情破裂，這就是第四課的重點，愛情不能鬆懈喔！
《“心靈親密”第五課─了解彼此差異並接納》
●男生要學習透明化，分享你的內心
一談戀愛，男生會覺得女生突然變得控制慾好強，要知道他去了哪裡？他現在想什麼？其實女生只是很容易沒有安全感，她需要參與男朋友的生活，她想多了解男朋友的想法，所以會問許多問題，這是她表達關心跟愛的方式，倒不是想監視男生，所以如果男生願意“透明化”，他就會發現原來女朋友越有安全感，就越能放心信任他，而當男生養成習慣跟女朋友分享內心時，你也會很開心，有人願意支持你，兩人感情就會越來越好喔！
●女生要仰慕尊重男生
女生喜歡問男生：[你愛不愛我？]，但很少聽見男生這樣問，對嗎？
因為上帝創造很奇妙，男生心底更需要的是聽見女生說：[你好棒！有你當我男朋友，我真幸福，我以你為傲！]所以學習常常讚美肯定你所愛的他，能更激勵他上進，以及感動地回報你的愛。
而女生也要反省自己的控制慾，你要學會尊重男生的想法跟感受，他們不見得第一時間會告訴你─他感到不愉快，但女生要細心的體諒觀察，並且小心自己任性，不然，長久下去，可能會嚇跑你的男朋友！
----------------------------------------------------------
心靈伴侶的真正意義，就是雙方能願意以對方的心意為第一，不論是用陪伴或是安慰，具體的支持對方，這裡頭也要有強韌的愛，以及互相了解為基石。
希望大家能看見心靈伴侶的可貴，而願意在每一天努力經營你們的愛情喔
我們都希望能找到自己的心靈伴侶，卻又擔心人海茫茫，但是也許不需要用“找”的，而是可以用“培養”的。
想跟大家分享一些過來人的幸福的小秘訣，希望給你一些點子跟幫助：
《談戀愛要睜大眼睛》
碰到不對的人，有時怎麼努力也難力挽狂瀾，這時就要理性喊卡！
很多人會受許多情傷折磨，但是有些傷口可以不用惡化，差別在於，當你發現你所愛非人時，你願不願意鼓起勇氣─放手，有人寧願忍受對方劈腿或是暴力相向，也不敢面對失去對方的痛苦。
一段健康的感情，是你能清楚明白，雙方都很認真的面對感情，碰到困難，都樂意調整自己，衝突是情人難免的，但你可以從處理衝突的方式，明白這段感情是否值得繼續下去，或是轉身離開。
《“心靈親密”第一課─培養信任感》
當你已經知道彼此真心相對時，就可以開始“心靈親密”的第一課─培養信仰感，不做讓對方不安的事情，也避免被試探的可能性。
舉例來說，兩人能約定跟異性朋友的適當距離，這依每對情侶的情況有所不同，有人完全不能接受對方跟異性朋友出去，有人可以接受先報備，但重點是你願不願意為了對方的容忍限度，而有所配合，當然也有可能是，對方有了不合理的要求，你能不能判斷那是不對，而試圖溝通。
從一些原則的溝通上，你就能發現雙方能否良性互動，而當情況惡劣，無法改進時，也要有心理準備，這段感情可能並不適合。
《“心靈親密”第二課─願意反省改變》
聖經上有一個教導很好， 你們怎樣判斷人，也必怎樣被判斷；你們用甚麼標準衡量人，也必照樣被衡量。 為甚麼看見你弟兄眼中的木屑，卻不理會自己眼中的梁木呢？
我們每個人都有缺點，但你能否改變自我？其實人的內心很多時候是很驕傲的，根本不願意承認自己有問題。而談戀愛是一個成長的過程，你對家人好友可能都有保留，但面對最親近的戀人反而無所遁藏，所以一些個性上的缺點就很容易浮現出來，而改變勢必是痛苦的，但可能是有益處的，讓我們的性格經過鍛鍊而更成熟。
在感情中，許多時候在要求對方改進之前，先反求諸己，反而更能感動對方，開始進步！
《“心靈親密”第三課─願意花費心思和時間》
戀愛真的是個花功夫的事情。
兩個人吵架，你可能要花很多時間解決問題。兩個人分離，你可能要花很多時間思念。兩個人感情停滯，你可能要花很多心力想辦法進步。
所以為什麼專家都建議不要太早開始戀愛，因為我們在求學階段，光是花時間面對課業就心力交瘁，還要面對自己許多的改變，尋找自我的過程。如果談了戀愛，勢必就要犧牲許多時間和精神在彼此身上，又因為不成熟，而留下許多傷害，更糟糕的是，錯過的青春美好時光以及其他的友誼是回不來的。
所以，我建議等你預備好，已經懂得愛自己，管理時間、情緒，經營好人際關係，不害怕寂寞時，才是談戀愛的好時機。
《“心靈親密”第四課─愛情不能鬆懈》
如果你已經預備好了，我也有幾個小建議：
你知道為什麼有人認為婚姻是戀愛的墳墓嗎？其實這跟男女生的差異很有關係。男生會認為把女生娶回家，就是任務階段性完成了，他下一個目標就是好好的衝刺事業，打好經濟基礎。但是女生是一直需要被疼惜的感覺，所以她會很明顯的感到不安，為什麼先生不像談戀愛時，那麼在意自己了？而男生也會感到太太怎麼那麼不懂事，還一直給他額外的壓力，時日一久，兩人心靈的縫隙就越來越大了！
所以，這提醒我們，就算你們曾經彼此情感親密，也可能因為環境或心態上的變化，造成感情破裂，這就是第四課的重點，愛情不能鬆懈喔！
《“心靈親密”第五課─了解彼此差異並接納》
●男生要學習透明化，分享你的內心
一談戀愛，男生會覺得女生突然變得控制慾好強，要知道他去了哪裡？他現在想什麼？其實女生只是很容易沒有安全感，她需要參與男朋友的生活，她想多了解男朋友的想法，所以會問許多問題，這是她表達關心跟愛的方式，倒不是想監視男生，所以如果男生願意“透明化”，他就會發現原來女朋友越有安全感，就越能放心信任他，而當男生養成習慣跟女朋友分享內心時，你也會很開心，有人願意支持你，兩人感情就會越來越好喔！
●女生要仰慕尊重男生
女生喜歡問男生：[你愛不愛我？]，但很少聽見男生這樣問，對嗎？
因為上帝創造很奇妙，男生心底更需要的是聽見女生說：[你好棒！有你當我男朋友，我真幸福，我以你為傲！]所以學習常常讚美肯定你所愛的他，能更激勵他上進，以及感動地回報你的愛。
而女生也要反省自己的控制慾，你要學會尊重男生的想法跟感受，他們不見得第一時間會告訴你─他感到不愉快，但女生要細心的體諒觀察，並且小心自己任性，不然，長久下去，可能會嚇跑你的男朋友！
----------------------------------------------------------
心靈伴侶的真正意義，就是雙方能願意以對方的心意為第一，不論是用陪伴或是安慰，具體的支持對方，這裡頭也要有強韌的愛，以及互相了解為基石。
希望大家能看見心靈伴侶的可貴，而願意在每一天努力經營你們的愛情喔
星期日, 5月 25, 2008
男女大不同之甜言蜜語篇
愛情醫生發現許多年輕人都不知道男女大不同，特別兩性差異反應在愛情更是讓你瞠目結舌，所以趕快來看醫生幫你整理的小重點，讓你知道男女差別，也懂得如何因應喔！
▂▃▅▆▇ 男生的永永遠遠比女生的永永遠遠短命多了！▇▆▅▃▂
女生醒醒吧！不管你們談了多少未來的事，男生都不相信你們會永遠在一起，他根本沒有考慮結婚的事。
一個十幾歲的男生就算跟你說，我們會永遠再一起，但是事實上他絕對不會想那麼遠，當你在計劃你們的生活時，他所思考的未來，跟他生命中想做事，可不是兩人婚後生活，即使你們決定上同一所大學，你仍舊不會是他生活的重心。不要妄想他會親口承認這件事，他會說出你想聽的答案，但不會說出真相。
這並不是說男生很爛，女生很好。這件事的重點在於每個人對事情的看法不盡相同。女孩的天性就是渴望遇見真愛安定下來，男生的天性則是出去征服世界，在冒險中發現自己的可能，當你了解兩方本質上的不同，你才能開始健康的男女關係。
男生請注意！女生真的會以為妳們會一直在一起，十年、二十年，甚至一輩子。
女生超級愛做"永永遠遠"的白日夢。畢竟那麼多少女們愛看的小說、偶像劇、漫畫都跟我們說，當我們第一次愛上一個人時，他就剛好是我們的真命天子，或許他現在還不明白我的付出，但等他成熟後，他會加倍的疼愛我。所以你們還沒開始約會，她就已經幻想你們未來婚禮，生活一起的樣子，她還跟好朋友討論過了。
所以老兄，你必須了解女生在想什麼，別把事情弄得更糟，因為當有女生喜歡我們，我們就會跟她說她愛聽的話：
[我要永遠跟妳在一起。]
[跟妳在一起，感覺很不一樣。]
[妳是我遇過最特別的女孩子。]
我們說的並不是假話，只是表達的誇張了點，例如：我們跟每個正妹在一起時，感覺都很不一樣，但女生可不這麼認為，她會以為你是真情告白，於是她的白日夢系統就啟動的更嚴重了。
所以，男生們，我們要對這些誤解負起責任，如果你一開始就知道沒有結果的話，就別裝了！那到後來會變成一種殘忍的情感虐待，你所說的每句話都是女孩浪漫的憧憬，會讓她毫無抵抗能力為你做牛做馬，但是當你離開她時，就像把女孩的心撕開，踐踏利用，最後毀了她，讓她一個人遍體麟傷。這實在太傷天害理，就算你現在真的感覺很愛她，也別隨便說出口，畢竟你不能保證三年後這感覺會不會改變。但是你也不能說出實話：[嗯！因為我現在跟妳在一起感覺很好，所以我很開心，但我不能保證當我沒感覺時，會不會愛上別人。]啪！你臉上會多了一巴掌。
所以，問題的癥結在於不管男生說什麼，女生都可能做不必要的聯想，所以我只能說，跟女生說話要小心，老老實實說出你的想法，不要加油添醋！
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最後，看到這邊，如果你覺得：[我才不會這樣咧，你不明白我是真的愛她/他。而且我們都打算結婚。]，請特別看下面這一段。
如果你真的"感覺"兩個人會有結果，讓我們來談談那個"感覺"，你會為了對方寢食難安、舉止失常、手心冒汗、心跳加速，指點你一下，那不叫做愛。那是很棒的感覺，但別把這感覺跟愛情弄混了，愛情不是多愁善感、輾轉難眠，愛情是你決定一輩子去愛一個人，就算有時沒有感覺也能堅持下去，就算對方中風、車禍殘廢，你仍愛他，這才叫愛情。
我們談的是你現階段的交友，這些原則到你成年以後面對婚姻就不適用了，但那之前，希望你能理解青少年戀愛不會有結果，這不代表你就不能跟異性交往，反而你可以去體驗和異性做朋友的樂趣跟界限，不會迷失自我，不會隨便跟對方上床，更珍惜自己喔！
▂▃▅▆▇ 男生的永永遠遠比女生的永永遠遠短命多了！▇▆▅▃▂
女生醒醒吧！不管你們談了多少未來的事，男生都不相信你們會永遠在一起，他根本沒有考慮結婚的事。
一個十幾歲的男生就算跟你說，我們會永遠再一起，但是事實上他絕對不會想那麼遠，當你在計劃你們的生活時，他所思考的未來，跟他生命中想做事，可不是兩人婚後生活，即使你們決定上同一所大學，你仍舊不會是他生活的重心。不要妄想他會親口承認這件事，他會說出你想聽的答案，但不會說出真相。
這並不是說男生很爛，女生很好。這件事的重點在於每個人對事情的看法不盡相同。女孩的天性就是渴望遇見真愛安定下來，男生的天性則是出去征服世界，在冒險中發現自己的可能，當你了解兩方本質上的不同，你才能開始健康的男女關係。
男生請注意！女生真的會以為妳們會一直在一起，十年、二十年，甚至一輩子。
女生超級愛做"永永遠遠"的白日夢。畢竟那麼多少女們愛看的小說、偶像劇、漫畫都跟我們說，當我們第一次愛上一個人時，他就剛好是我們的真命天子，或許他現在還不明白我的付出，但等他成熟後，他會加倍的疼愛我。所以你們還沒開始約會，她就已經幻想你們未來婚禮，生活一起的樣子，她還跟好朋友討論過了。
所以老兄，你必須了解女生在想什麼，別把事情弄得更糟，因為當有女生喜歡我們，我們就會跟她說她愛聽的話：
[我要永遠跟妳在一起。]
[跟妳在一起，感覺很不一樣。]
[妳是我遇過最特別的女孩子。]
我們說的並不是假話，只是表達的誇張了點，例如：我們跟每個正妹在一起時，感覺都很不一樣，但女生可不這麼認為，她會以為你是真情告白，於是她的白日夢系統就啟動的更嚴重了。
所以，男生們，我們要對這些誤解負起責任，如果你一開始就知道沒有結果的話，就別裝了！那到後來會變成一種殘忍的情感虐待，你所說的每句話都是女孩浪漫的憧憬，會讓她毫無抵抗能力為你做牛做馬，但是當你離開她時，就像把女孩的心撕開，踐踏利用，最後毀了她，讓她一個人遍體麟傷。這實在太傷天害理，就算你現在真的感覺很愛她，也別隨便說出口，畢竟你不能保證三年後這感覺會不會改變。但是你也不能說出實話：[嗯！因為我現在跟妳在一起感覺很好，所以我很開心，但我不能保證當我沒感覺時，會不會愛上別人。]啪！你臉上會多了一巴掌。
所以，問題的癥結在於不管男生說什麼，女生都可能做不必要的聯想，所以我只能說，跟女生說話要小心，老老實實說出你的想法，不要加油添醋！
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最後，看到這邊，如果你覺得：[我才不會這樣咧，你不明白我是真的愛她/他。而且我們都打算結婚。]，請特別看下面這一段。
如果你真的"感覺"兩個人會有結果，讓我們來談談那個"感覺"，你會為了對方寢食難安、舉止失常、手心冒汗、心跳加速，指點你一下，那不叫做愛。那是很棒的感覺，但別把這感覺跟愛情弄混了，愛情不是多愁善感、輾轉難眠，愛情是你決定一輩子去愛一個人，就算有時沒有感覺也能堅持下去，就算對方中風、車禍殘廢，你仍愛他，這才叫愛情。
我們談的是你現階段的交友，這些原則到你成年以後面對婚姻就不適用了，但那之前，希望你能理解青少年戀愛不會有結果，這不代表你就不能跟異性交往，反而你可以去體驗和異性做朋友的樂趣跟界限，不會迷失自我，不會隨便跟對方上床，更珍惜自己喔！
Mutation of genetic material
Scientific Terms
Causes:
Mutagenic material eg: radioactive substances, nuclear effect, or environmental stress. Alteration in Genetic material eg: Non-disjunction, base-deletion and substitution...
Symptoms: Altered physical features, mental retardation.
Treatment: NONE, GOD created everthing. Restrict yourself from getting closed contact with radioactive substances such as X-Ray! WOMEN: DO NOT SCAN UR BABY AS OFTEN AS U LIKE, this might cause alteration in the genetic material of your baby inside ur stomach. This is due to the high energy particle that might cause mutation in the genetical material, if present in high dose.
Weird huh, for what i've written. It's kindda scientific but just wanted to shout out that....this is the reality and this is what we are facing in the world today. All this are in scientific terms. If in non-scientific terms, continue to read.
Non-scientific terms
Causes: Evil and reality of the world cause mutation in human characteristic. Man started to leave GOD and live on their own, like those Isrealite shown in the book of Kings.
Symptoms: Depression, Jealousy, Disappointment, Anger, Eager to Revenge etc.
Treatment: NONE. But with GOD everything can be done.
There's similarity between these two. That's the treatment part - NONE. Both of this you need to rely on GOD. No matter what is his creation, you'll have to respect it and appreciate it. HE will have HIS WILL in it. Just learn to accept it. Pray hard for that.
Sometimes, there's also 'radioactive' or 'nuclear' particles in me whereby i do not know when does it cause harm (like the effect of nuclear weapon). I myself cannot find the source of leakage. I need some technician for that. But unfortunately, this wont happen. Unless, the power source had been turned off.
Causes:
Mutagenic material eg: radioactive substances, nuclear effect, or environmental stress. Alteration in Genetic material eg: Non-disjunction, base-deletion and substitution...
Symptoms: Altered physical features, mental retardation.
Treatment: NONE, GOD created everthing. Restrict yourself from getting closed contact with radioactive substances such as X-Ray! WOMEN: DO NOT SCAN UR BABY AS OFTEN AS U LIKE, this might cause alteration in the genetic material of your baby inside ur stomach. This is due to the high energy particle that might cause mutation in the genetical material, if present in high dose.
Weird huh, for what i've written. It's kindda scientific but just wanted to shout out that....this is the reality and this is what we are facing in the world today. All this are in scientific terms. If in non-scientific terms, continue to read.
Non-scientific terms
Causes: Evil and reality of the world cause mutation in human characteristic. Man started to leave GOD and live on their own, like those Isrealite shown in the book of Kings.
Symptoms: Depression, Jealousy, Disappointment, Anger, Eager to Revenge etc.
Treatment: NONE. But with GOD everything can be done.
There's similarity between these two. That's the treatment part - NONE. Both of this you need to rely on GOD. No matter what is his creation, you'll have to respect it and appreciate it. HE will have HIS WILL in it. Just learn to accept it. Pray hard for that.
Sometimes, there's also 'radioactive' or 'nuclear' particles in me whereby i do not know when does it cause harm (like the effect of nuclear weapon). I myself cannot find the source of leakage. I need some technician for that. But unfortunately, this wont happen. Unless, the power source had been turned off.
星期三, 5月 21, 2008
星期二, 5月 20, 2008
Angels Always by Your Side
Believe it or not, there's always angel by your side giving you a helping hand whenever you need it. Of coz, we could not visualised the angels like the one pictured out in the movie or cartoon show. We need the heart to feel their appearance. Let me quote one word from Queen Lucy of The Chronicles of Narnia "It's not that you cannot see, just that you don't want to see it." Erm, confused?
Well, what i want to shout out is that, there's always an invisible helping hands ready by our side. It was always there whenever and wherever we are. However, in this busy and realistic world, the vision on the angels become blurred or sometimes even ignored. World tends to become dark, full of disaster and evil, mans are fighting with each other....This is a endless story. The world is getting darker and darker. The bright like brought out by the angels had been buried by the darkness. Mans will have difficulties in finding out their way therefore they tend to sort out their own way which might lead them into the darkest pathway of all.
So, no matter what.....DON'T GIVE UP!!!! Remember to slow down your pace, calm down yourself and seek for the presence of angels besides you. GOD always provide helping hand. HE SO LOVE THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY SON JESUS CHRIST TO SAVE US. HE is always by our side as if the tourch that guide my footage.
Well, what i want to shout out is that, there's always an invisible helping hands ready by our side. It was always there whenever and wherever we are. However, in this busy and realistic world, the vision on the angels become blurred or sometimes even ignored. World tends to become dark, full of disaster and evil, mans are fighting with each other....This is a endless story. The world is getting darker and darker. The bright like brought out by the angels had been buried by the darkness. Mans will have difficulties in finding out their way therefore they tend to sort out their own way which might lead them into the darkest pathway of all.
So, no matter what.....DON'T GIVE UP!!!! Remember to slow down your pace, calm down yourself and seek for the presence of angels besides you. GOD always provide helping hand. HE SO LOVE THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY SON JESUS CHRIST TO SAVE US. HE is always by our side as if the tourch that guide my footage.
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